“You are aware that you are fragile physically, aren’t you?” The oncologist that I was interviewing a couple of years ago abruptly blurted out as she was reading the medical information I had filled out on my forms in regards to my health issues and those of my parents.
Her comment caught me off guard and caused me to feel immediately defensive. I mean, let’s face it, who likes to be told that they are anything less than strong and amazing, right?
I thought of her statement this morning as I was filling out the paperwork for the physical treatment appointment I have in regards to my frozen shoulder.
Only today, as I was writing all the stuff down, I experienced an “agreeing moment” as I mentally acknowledged “yes, I am fragile physically, and I must learn to care for myself in a special way because of that.”
I have been reminded of the importance of “self-compassion” lately as I am reading through this book of mine on recovering from betrayal.
Betrayal is something that just about everyone has experienced and it affects folks in deeper ways than we think.
I think sometimes it would do us all good if someone gave us a form to fill out regarding our emotional and social injuries. Seeing them all written down in one place might just overwhelm us to the point of being a little bit kinder and more understanding towards ourselves.
Self-compassion is all about recognizing that you have been through a lot and you need to be treated kindly. It’s not self-pity, and it’s not about trying to draw in the attention of others. It really is a great antidote for self-criticism – something that develops when people take on the wrong kind of responsibility for the bad things that have happened to them and around them.
Let’s face it, sometimes bad things happen. And sometimes they happen to us.
Self-compassion is simply developing a sympathetic response to one’s own hurt, distress, or vulnerability with a motivation to heal, repair and improve.
It’s a perfectly fine thing to feel compassion for yourself. As a matter of fact, it’s a pretty healthy thing to do.
And the best part about it is this ~ when we are willing to take the responsibility for caring for ourselves, the whole world around us can breathe easier because they don’t have to!
A lot of healthy things are going on in the heart and mind and soul of this physically fragile women. And it’s all good. It’s all just very, very good.
Be kind to yourself today! Chances are that you are one of the 100% around us that have been betrayed on some level and are working through recovering from a hard time. 💖
P.S. I wrote this about three years ago and just discovered it today. Reading it encouraged me and I pray it will encourage you too!